The Best Time for Mom to Go Back to Work
Being a mother is one of the most difficult jobs a woman can have. Not only are you responsible for yourself, but as a mother you are now responsible for the well being of another human(s).
When that human is just a baby, you are responsible for making sure their basic needs are met (clothes, food, etc) – not to mention their emotional needs. Are they getting enough love or are you spoiling them with too much love (is that even possible?). Let’s not forget the never ending controversies of breast feeding vs. formula feeding and letting your little one cry it out vs. running to them at the sound of a whimper. These are all real issues. Eventually those issues go away and we are faced with bigger decisions and problems – toilet training, learning their numbers/letters, friendships, school and the list goes on and on.
All of the issues we face as mothers are real and during each stage of our child’s life, they are the most important thing – at the time. This brings the question – when should I go back to work? For those moms who have a choice, if and when they should go back to work, when does your child need you the most? As a parent, one of the frequent quotes I have heard over and over is “bigger kids, bigger problems.” Truer words have never been said.
There is no right answer and each parent’s choice is a personal decision for them and their child. Having lived through the different stages of child rearing, from newborn all the way to a raising a teen in high school, I realize that being home with that middle school and high school child is as important, if not more important, than being home with the newborn, toddler, elementary school aged child.
During middle school your child is “sowing their oats” and depending on your child, it can be a rough time in both of your lives. Not to mention the decisions your child will face on a daily basis, which will have an effect on their future. Children are introduced to everything we want to protect them against during middle school and high school. Drugs and Sex. While there is no guarantee that a parent being home will deter a child from experimenting – seeing their parent’s face when they come home from school and knowing they have someone they can turn to after a tough day, may make a difference. Having a shoulder to cry on and a parent to lean can really make a difference.
Whatever you choose for your family, it is a personal decision. From leaving a helpless child with a babysitter/nanny, to working outside the home when your child is in elementary, middle school or high school, there is no one path and no one right way to raise your children. The only right thing is to be there for your children, love them and help guide them.
What are your thoughts on when is the best time for a mother to go back to work?
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